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Complain, Complain, Complain… then Find Your Goal. It’s a Gift. Write it down!

Inside every complaint is the gift of a goal not yet realized…

If you find yourself repeating the same complaint over and over again, and people are asking you to stop, maybe you should. Stop. Write down that complaint and take a look at it. What are you unhappy about? Your job? The weather? Your spouse? Write that down.

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Now, take a look at what you’ve written because there’s a gift in that complaint. Yes, you read that right, there’s a gift in every complaint, a special gift, just for you. It’s called “a goal.” The goal is what you do want. Sometimes we need to ask ourselves what we don’t want before we arrive at what we do want.

You see, we’re told not to complain because other people don’t want to hear about it. Complaining can make us and everyone around us feel pretty bad. Who wants to listen to how bad things are all day long? Certainly not me.

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However, complaints can be very helpful if you look for the gift within them. It’s the gift of knowing what you don’t like about the world, about your world. Unhappy with your job? What kind of job would you like? Not sure? Not sure what you want out of life? Well… Take a look at your complaints. In fact, complain away! Yes, I’m suggesting you complain! Not to other people, of course, but to yourself.

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Write that down. I mean, write down that complaint. If you have lots of complaints, then great! Write them all down in as much detail as possible. In fact, write them down everyday if you need to. Keep writing until you find the gift. The gift is… THE GOAL.

Ta-da! You thought I was being facetious or silly when I suggested you complain, complain, complain, didn’t you!

Nope, I’m telling you what you need to hear if you are genuinely suffering in a life that you don’t want, a life you didn’t choose. Maybe you are working at a job you hate, living with others with whom you are not compatible, in a city where you’re very unhappy, or heaven forbid, your health is not what you’d like it to be.

Complain away! (But not to other people. Complain to yourself.) Why? Because when we complain, we’re telling ourselves what we don’t want, and that can be very useful because it leads us toward finding out what we do want. It also informs us that we’re unhappy with something, so we’d really like change, but we feel powerless to create that change. That’s why we complain. We complain because we don’t think things will change, and we’re hoping someone else out there will help us by, at least, giving us some sympathy.

Painting by Meria Cairns

Honestly, I wish someone would magically appear and help you if you are unhappy so that you could be happy. Not just because I’m a nice person (although I am… but then I’m also pretty biased in this self-judgment. Ha ha!) But I personally believe that when people are happy they are at their best and are less likely to cause problems in the world. Frankly, the world is a better place when most people are happy. (This should be common sense, but, judging by the many injustices of this world, it is, apparently, not common sense, so it must be stated here.) A happy person is not likely going to burn down another person’s house, or to rape, rob or kill anyone. Happy people tend to be peaceable people. For all you people out there who value money over people: Happy people save our society money! Yes, a happy person is more likely to take care of her health and not to cost our insurance companies or hospitals as much money. Happy people are more likely to work honestly and do the best job they can. They make better employees, better spouses, better neighbors, better friends. Happy people are easier to be with because… ehem… they tend not to complain.

Huh? But you said…

Okay, just hear me out. Read on, my virtual friend.

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Need Help Solving Life’s Problems? Boost Your Intelligence!

Boost Your Intelligence

Have a lot of problems in your life? Boost your intelligence so that you’ll have the tools you’ll need to solve them.

Why not? If you’re smarter, then, logically, you’ll have more intellectual tools for solving your own problems, right? (Well, it hasn’t always worked for me… but… generally speaking, being smarter can only make one more resourceful.)

Strengthening our minds can make us much better problem solvers and give us the tools to find resources we may not have guessed could exist. If nothing else, watching our intelligence increase can boost our self confidence, and that can help us to communicate better with others and form better quality relationships.

How to boost intelligence?

Well, simply thinking about small problems and all the potential causes and effects can get us started. For example, a tree falls in the wilderness—a small problem for me at the moment, as I’m nowhere near the wilderness. But…

Why? How? When? Where? The unimaginative and blissfully complacent nonthinkers may respond with, “That’s just the way it is. Trees fall after a while,” then move onto mindlessly watching yet another TV sitcom.

Oy vay! (Spell check?)

Yes, a tree could have grown old and fallen but why would growing old cause it to fall? Do all trees fall when they grow old? How old is old? Does the wood of the tree get dry and brittle? What causes that? Is the tree less able to absorb nutrients and moisture in its old age? Are there trees much older that haven’t fallen yet, that are doing better? Why?

Maybe it’s not an old tree at all. Maybe it’s a new tree. Maybe a draught caused the tree to become dry and brittle. Maybe the tree got sick. Do trees catch viruses the way humans do? Bacterial infections? Or possibly insects or rodents harmed this tree?

Do trees get injured? Could it have been struck by lightening and never quite recovered? Was it bitten up into despair by nature’s creatures?

We an continue to ask questions about why it fell, how it fell, and even speculate on how to prevent other trees from falling, ways to save dying trees or what to do with trees once they fall. We can even study the aftermath of the tree’s fall to see how it might affect human life surrounding it. Could whatever caused the tree to fall also harm humans?

So many questions. Why ask them? This inquisitive practice can teach us to seek solutions, to solve problems. Developing this skill enables us to apply it to areas of our own life. The more we develop our imagination and practice deep contemplation and focus, and the more we question our current reality, the more likely we are to find solutions everywhere we go. That skill can be life-saving in times of trouble.

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Tired of Being a Victim? Practice Random Acts of Kindness (Instead of Yawning…)


Made it to the end? You read the whole thing? Congrats! Woo hooly hoo! Who? How?

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Keep Your Eyes Open… Read, Read, Read!

Reading your local newspaper or checking out local web sites that inform you of local events in your area can turn up all sorts of surprising stuff. Seriously, you never know what you might discover! Solutions to solving an obstacle you thought was impossible might be offered next Friday at 8 a.m., for example… Well, at least, that’s what happened to me. So…

Keep Your Eyes Open… Read, Read, Read!

Pay attention to your surroundings. Read ads posted on public billboards. They still exist! Listen to what other people are telling you about events in your community. Read your local newspaper and/or check out local web sites that inform you of events in your area that are often free and can turn up all sorts of surprising solutions to problems we thought were impossible. Seriously, you never know what you might discover! Your biggest problem might be solved next Friday morning, free of charge. Sometimes all you need to do is show up.

Recently, I had a mysterious fainting spell. For reasons yet unexplained, I lost consciousness and fell face forward on the floor. Ouch! Except I was unconscious, so I didn’t feel anything… until after the fact, and I will continue to be in pain for probably several weeks.

After I hit the floor, I woke up next to a pool of my own blood, surprised that I wasn’t in bed and not even knowing where I was at first. Pretty disturbing. Fortunately, no bones were broken but my front teeth have been aching ever since. Although I could still chew food with my back teeth, it often aggravated the pain, so I’ve remained on a diet of soft food. Hmm… Might help my diet anyhow.

(This is an excerpt from my Overcoming Obstacles blog–LipstickOffaPig.tumblr.com)

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